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A dear friend asked me recently how I recharge myself. It says something about where my mind was in that moment that I really had to...

In my reading lately about Trauma and our responses to it, I’ve been drawn to noticing the fawn response, which is not talked about so...

It seems natural to be distressed when something awful has happened. A death. A traffic accident. Abuse. Faced with situations like...

I often say I like contact with other people to be real. A few weeks ago, someone curiously asked, what does real mean to me? It was an...

We’re not always in touch with all of the capability, wisdom and resourcefulness we have inside. While we are all multi-faceted, it's...

Sometimes it is easy to lose trust in what you are experiencing. It may be that someone else somehow undermines you, convincing you that...

There are two key questions that many clients want to address when they come for an initial session of psychotherapy, and they are...

When we think of being in danger, the fight/flight response is perhaps the response that most readily comes to mind. Our sympathetic...

Often, what brings clients into therapy is a reticence to experience their feelings. This can show up in all sorts of ways, in low mood...

“Like a tree, our growth depends upon our ability to soften, loosen, and shed defenses we no longer need.” Daily OM This quote popped...

I often blog about self-help techniques and approaches those interested can use to support their well-being and emotional health. I like...

I’m introducing another simple reflection tool today, one I met many moons ago when I trained as a life coach. It’s called a Life Wheel,...

Psychotherapy is intended to be an authentic encounter. An intimate, enabling space in which we as clients can be utterly who we are...

It’s hard to beat the feeling of really being with someone. That feeling of parent and child spontaneously connecting in an experience. ...

I frequently hear people talk about mindfulness as a way to inner peace. I hear it so often I feel compelled to write a little about my...

Sometimes, we can get caught in a trap of feeling continually ‘on.’ It may feel like you’re on a hamster wheel, needing to be in...

Sometimes clients come into therapy wanting to be absolved of guilt when they have done something they regret. Guilt is painful, and this...

On a training course a while ago, I heard a metaphor for therapy that I liked. The trainer described the role of a therapist ole as that...

We come to know ourselves through our interactions with other people. It’s a bit like others hold up a mirror to us, we see ourselves...

I’ve been pondering Erik Erikson’s theory of psycho-social development of late, which sets out eight stages of development along our way...