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There is a truth I learned way back in my training that has stuck with me and I wanted to reflect on today. It is the reflection that if...

I had an interesting insight the other day as I spotted an old pattern that had popped up and taken root unnoticed. Sitting with a...

"We all need freedom and security, which is why when the world doesn’t feel safe, we often don’t feel as free." Esther Perel At first...

Now we're into September, families country-wide will be back into the rhythm of school and working weeks after the different pace of the...

Sometimes life circumstances become very difficult in a way that is not going to quickly resolve itself. I'm thinking of situations like...

I’m deeply reflective at the moment about the interactive dance that is a therapeutic relationship. Clients come, bringing with them...

Our relationship with our self is the most important one we work on in psychotherapy, given our self-relations inform all of our...

I wanted to reflect today on the nature of feeling, which is understandably a recurrent and important theme in therapeutic work. It’s a...

I've been writing recently about regulating your nervous system to be grounded and calm to give yourself the flexibility to feel and...

For therapeutic work to be successful, clients need to be feeling regulated, in other words they need to be calm and relaxed, so that...

When I planted my new garden last year, I put a row of floribunda rose bushes along the back fence, anticipating by this year I would be...

The difference between Trauma and Developmental Trauma is one that I often find myself explaining to clients. We can be traumatized by a...

“Healing does not mean wallowing in or identifying with injury. Nor does it mean defensive inaction. It means having the courage to...

Out walking a few weeks ago at Fountains Abbey in North Yorkshire, my companion wished the trees could tell us the stories of all they...

I have a gnarled old piece of wood that sits on my desk in my therapy room. I picked it up years ago in some woodland near Durham, I...

When I heard the phrase ‘don’t abandon yourself’ recently, it resonated deeply. It struck me as I pondered that it’s easy sometimes to...

It’s a stressful time at the moment. We are freshly out of two years of pandemic restrictions, there is war in Europe, and families'...

I recently came across a cracking set of questions about letting go. If you’ve a sense of it being time to reflect on what energises you...

I’ve been using this affirmation of late to remind myself that whatever it is that I am experiencing is not ‘mine’ and it’s not stuck. ...

My weekend poem this week is called The Abyss. I wrote it in 2011. It speaks of trauma, of the fragmentation inside that happens when...