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I've had many experiences in recent months of doing familiar things with someone unfamiliar. It has been interesting to notice the shift...

This idea is an often quoted pre-supposition from neuro-linguistic modelling. It's also good old common sense, around for aeons before...

There can be many reasons that we tend to solve our own problems, and to do so on our own. Perhaps life has turned out so far in a way...

It’s easy to forget the importance of the way that we relate to ourselves. So much of the time we focus on relationships with others -...

​In generations gone by, people often learned from other people, perhaps by sitting with a colleague who was doing something, and then...

From time to time, I meet clients whose thinking is no longer free-flowing. They are caught in a repeating pattern of the same thoughts...

Sometimes, we make decisions that we believe are right for us, yet we later wonder what we were thinking. How can this be? There are of...

It’s perhaps natural that when we are not well we spend much of our time focused on things that have been difficult, or we perceive to...

Power shows up in relationships, it can't not. In relationship we play out our psychological patterns, showing them most clearly with...

Sometimes it is hard to say goodbye. It can be very upsetting when something of value comes to an end, and you have to face it no longer...

One of the aspects of self I find important to find out about in my client work is the client's sense of the sacred. For some people...

I've been reflecting on the perceived opposite of discipline and spontaneity this week. On the surface, it can seem as if having...

Endings are not always easy to predict, they can come unexpectedly. it’s important to know that everything changes, and nothing is...

Need a good rant? Worried it might not be good for you? You’re not alone. Often, people have been brought up with unrecognised rules...

I was sat recently, just reflecting, on a windy day. It was quite something, the way the wind felt like it was moving through me, despite...

I took a young child ice skating for the first time recently. It was a quite wonderful experience. Today I thought I'd write about what...

You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let...

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ...

Are you happy? This seems to be a frequently asked question, with a 'right' answer. Happy = good, anything else = a problem. But how...

A loss of meaning is a painful experience. It may be that a cherished job role no longer seems to have a purpose, hobbies that lose their...